Yep, with a 'scope, measure the period of the shortest high or low time - that will generally be your bit time. Bit rate = 1/(bit time)
Do you have any control over what is been sent? If not, then you'll have to capture a character (generally after an idle period), and given enough attempts, you should be able to work out the parity. There are generally 1 or more stop bits and can be worked out if you can capture 2 contiguous characters.