Lead is VERY bad if you ingest it - touching it has no ill effects whatsoever - there's been no scientific suggestion that lead poisoning can occur from touching solder, in fact quite the opposite (because I asked the H&S Executive).
As I've mentioned previously here, a local lead recycler for many years provided free milk to all children in that area (just in case, as milk is a good preventative), and even now performs constant monitoring at a large number of fixed stations around the facility and surrounding area.