Even the 'ready made' sollutions are going to require some programming knowledge, especially kits. PIC or AVR basic is very easy to learn as long as you know a little bit about general electronics to understand the basic parallel programming circuits. If it's over your head you're going to need help from someone closer to you, there's only so much you can tell or teach in text, and you're going to get very frustrated since you're not sure how to approach the problem in the first place, because you have no experiance with the devices in use. Perhaps someone else in the forums can recommend other kits or modules that might be workable for you, but I'm not sure how useful they'll be.