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I'd go one step further and say a person who hasn't been through it definitely doesn't understand it. I've never been through one and I don't understand it, but I've talked to my wife for 25 years about her divorce and still see the pain it has caused (and is still causing the kids and grandkids).In other words, I don't think you understand divorce.
@ cr0sh
Your comments are easily addressed, but before doing so, please provide some background for perspective:
1) Why do marriage counselors and psychiatrists have the highest divorce rates among medical professionals?
2) Why do Catholics, whose religion forbids divorce in most cases, have a high divorce rate, while Jews, for whom divorce is just another day, have very low divorce rates?
In other words, I don't think you understand divorce.
John
I've gone through two divorces and the first one was a night mare. I gave my wife more than she could expect since only goods have to be shared which have been purchased during time of marriage. My wife had nothing but her clothes when we got married while I had a complete household.
She couldn't resist taking (stealing) all the accessories of a knitting machine making the machine worthless. To make the machine work again I had to put double the money into spare parts than I had put in buying the complete machine.
If it comes to divorce there shouldn't be a question about guilt. Everbody has his share when it comes to divorce. I have experienced more females with irrational female pride than men.
The second divorce was smooth. We had split households from the beginning. (My wife didn't like the idea to be held responsible in case of my company breakdown.) Despite that I supported my second wife after divorce helping her to establish her own household.
We have a saying in Germany: "Wie man in den Wald ruft, so schallt es zurueck." literally translated: "The way you shout into the forest the way the echo returns."
Depending on the laws where you lived at the time, while what she did might've been seen as vindictive (and depending on where the divorce was in process - perhaps even illegal), if it were a "community property" situation (or other possibilities), just because she had nothing to start with, doesn't mean she shouldn't have anything in the end. Marriage is a shared responsibility.
That you speak of women as "females" indicates you still have a ways to go in understanding what it means to be a woman in our unfortunately unequal patriarchal society.
Glad to hear you had a better outcome. I've come to the decision, though, that if for some reason my marriage either goes south, or any other reason for dissolution, that "once is enough" - I'd rather continue as a "born-again batchelor"...
Is that similar to the American saying of "pissing in the wind"?
Depending on the laws where you lived at the time, while what she did might've been seen as vindictive (and depending on where the divorce was in process - perhaps even illegal), if it were a "community property" situation (or other possibilities), just because she had nothing to start with, doesn't mean she shouldn't have anything in the end. Marriage is a shared responsibility.
Excuse me. What should be illegal about a divorce.
Hi cr0sh. (I think you know about my situation "https://www.electro-tech-online.com/threads/i-survived.103782/").
She never wanted to work, and she never did. My salary was enough to maintain the household and her spending spree. But she got greedy. Suddenly there was not enough money for her to spend. The whole criminal case against her was because she wanted to kill me for the insurance. It would have paid out (in my currency R4,500,000.00). That’s quite a lot of money here. Now that she’s been caught and standing trail for the attempted murder I’m not supporting her any more. To make up for the “loss of income”, she’s now suing me with the divorce case and she wants half of everything.
My divorce case is not the first, nor will it be the last, but I hope to high heaven that justice will prevail. Date for divorce case (15-17 Aug. 2011). I’ll let you know in two weeks time if I managed to retain my household or if I lost it all to some greedy money freak.
To tie up with your comment. Yes, in a "Normal" case that usually does happen, but I'm special, in more ways than one
I wasn't meaning that divorce being illegal, but that her "destroying" the value of the knitting machine by removal of parts (whether before or after the divorce) could potentially be considered some kind of legal breach (a civil breach if anything; I doubt something like that would be considered criminal).
That was just the beginning. She tried to make me look the worst husband on earth even by calling my wing commander on the telephone accusing me of having beaten her up for no reason. I'm sure I never laid my hands on her beating her at all.
She just didn't understand that her small brains wouldn't stop a pilot from flying. Flying was my job and my life. Since I didn't quit flying it was reason for her to get divorced. (She knew from the beginning what awaits her. I was already pilot when we got acquainted.)
Boncuk
Driving anyone can do. Bad or good driver, you are on Terra firma. Have a prang....so what?
Flying, on the other hand, one mistake and all gone.
Cheers