All you need to do is get a small relay that works at the same voltage as the vibrator motor and use that to trigger whatever larger devices from that.
Typical cell phones supply around 3 volts to the motor so just look for a relay that works at that voltage.
The other option would be to run the speakers input wires through a bridge rectifier and convert the sound signal to DC and use that to power the small 3 volt relay.
Does triggering the relay have to work multiple times or just once?