thanks, i did try a resistor as you mentioned, it did reduce the volts but the current came down far too much for my relay,i connected it in series as you say : / might be something else i did wrong. anyway i bought a 5v regulator and it did the trick. it reduced the volts but the amps where still reading high on my test meter.
i made this type of circuit below and used a diffrent psu running at 10v (bringing it down to 5v using this circuit) the parts were so cheap i built the whole thing, as the relay was for routing audio the dc smoothing might have helped any noise crosstalk , well, its all for fun : P
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peace : )