1. The write signals pulse width is on page 8. It depends on the voltage the device operates at.
2. The Com and Seg lines go to the LCD itself. If it's a module, they are already connected. If you are mounting a panel to the chip, refer to the LCD panel spec sheet.
3. The device is pretty slow. You will need delays that are at least as long as the minimum pulse width - but they can be a little longer. Accuracy isn't as important as making sure it is longer than the minimum time.