You'll have to make the decision how to do it. If the alarm is activating the mirrors only when you arm/disarm the alarm then the relays should not be always on.The relays are the right way to do it I think.Not that much more trouble.
Looks like a good deal on the alarm.I made one ,It's in the project section. I still need to a better sensor for it. Mine uses an infrared remote but a radio would be better because you don't need line of sight. I can always go back and change anything I want to though.
I don't see what sensor and transmitter yours is using .