looking for anything, i mean anything... that could give me a small flame to light something really small, but has to be controlled by a circuit, so I control when the flame comes on and off!
well an "ignitor" is an electrical device used to start a rocket motor, it is composed of two pieces of wire with a pyrogen tip. I am not sure if it creates a flame.
all I need is basically an electronic device that can controll a flame.
look for those fire places that can be controlled with a remote. Maybe someone sells a replacement remote or maybe you can find a schematic on Remote controlled fireplaces.
My natural gas fireplace has a little pilot flame that burns all the time. The on-off switch just turns the main gas supply on and off and an adjustment for it adjusts the height of the flame.
What exactly are you trying to do? What do you burn to get the flame? Can't you ignite it with a spark like a gas stove? You would also need to control the gas or whatever your going to burn if you did it this way.