wow thats messed up
Parents always die. That is difficult for the children in many ways. When my brother and I settled the estate, I was resolved there would never be a conflict, regardless of what outsiders might consider equitable. I was the younger brother, and in some cultures past, that meant I got nothing. There were things I wanted, but nothing I felt I needed or was entitled to. We settled the estate in less than half a day, flipped a coin a few times, no hard feelings and not a single argument. On one item, I won the toss, but still gave it to my brother, because I knew what it meant to him. He reciprocated, but it was not some lawyer-brokered deal. Almost 20 years later, we still have not had an argument.
I think it is a terrible shame when true families need a third party to settle an estate. Obviously, there are situations when an 80-year-old marries a 25-year-old, and she wants everything for her cat. The real test there is whether you still need to be dependent on your parents or have grown up. If the amount in question is a few hundred million, and it is clear the old man was bonkers, then maybe a lawyer is a good idea. The vast majority of such destructive family arguments deal with far less money -- perhaps even less than $100,000. My advice to you, tvtech, is to forget it. Take the memories and leave the cash. Above all, keep your family respect.
John
I don't know when my days will end. But; my Dad is 87 and my brother is in charge of the estate. I am second on the "Living Trust" and the house is worth maybe around $350,000 in a good location by a school.
I don't want the 25 foot trailer worth around $15,000 or the $60,000 truck to pull the trailer nice rig has a 5th wheel. I don't want any of my Father or Mothers things. I would like for him to sell the house and split the money which would benefit my retirement in 8 years. It would pay off my home; and put $75k in the bank.
My father has a good insurance with pension and retirement. We should be able to take care him if he should ever need it with that income.
But; he's living in the home right now and wouldn't be able to purchase one if we split the money. I doubt he will be willing to do it in the end; to justify his current living standard.
So, I'll just keep going the way it is; not looking for a break as usual.
I also failed to mention he's also exploited my "Father" for money on numerous occasions for thousands; he's always doing something stupid?
I'll have to work until I die like most people. It would be nice to be able to take care of my wife if she has needs; my wife has MS and I don't know when or if that could happen.
I don't ask for money from my father; I just think I should be able to take care of myself and because I'm not a needy person; he feels guilty for all the times he's bailed my worthless brother out.
I'm just glad my moms gone so she doesn't have to deal with my idiot brother.
I know what your talking about, tv.
Keep your chin up.
kv
Things always seem to get worse around the holidays. Not sure what it is--whether it has to do with various family members who don't get along come together in the same area, or maybe it has to do with finances, holiday lay-offs, bad memories, or whatever. Best we can do is keep moving forward. You're better than that, you can push through these issues. Don't let them control you. I don't mean to be cliche or cheesy, but I really mean it. Keep your chin up and things will get better with time.
I am sorry for your loss tvtech. I imagine this season will be especially difficult for you, but you can get through it.
Best wishes,
Matt
kv,
You need to convience the elder sibling that the fifth wheel and half the proceeds from the house will provide elder enough resources to do whatever they want ... wherever they want ...
Good "Thread" tv
Thank you.
kv
Edit: In a re-read of what I posted. Sorry to have put my stuff here in this "Thread" I just started in and couldn't stop.
Sorry again, and a good "Thread" hopefully it will benefit others.
Cheers, tv
kv
Good to see you again Matt
Long time no see or hear from you?
I perk up when I am on ETO. So much good here like I have always said.
Must make some other Forums out there a little "jealous"
PS: Seeing as I told everyone here I love them..so I love you too.
Fair is fair....
And I have to work Tomorrow...Mr Sun is going to start shining in about 1 Hour.
I think I left it too late......
GOD thank you for ETO. Thank you for good people. sorry about not using caps. really early here. and i think i need to sleep a little bit before i have to wake up again.
not too many sets but enough to keep me busy
love you all
tvtech
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