DigiCAN said:
WHY WON'T ANYONE GIVE ME A CHANCE
Why wait? You can wait a long time for someone to say, "What the heck, I'll throw the dog a bone." But as long as you're dependent on philanthropy, you'll always be dependent on philanthropy. Why wait? Just reach and take the opportunity you want.
Opportunity is just like that - it grows on a tree with plenty enough for everyone. All you have to do is reach out and take it, it's as simple as that. You can wait for the odds to change in your favour, wait for someone to give you a chance, or instead remove the element of chance altogether.
You are in control of your own destiny. The problem is, you've convinced yourself otherwise by falling into a trap (I don't doubt inadvertently) of repeating a negative mantra. What you need to do is recharge your positive mind set. You're not the first black engineer in America, and you won't be the last, but you're still young enough to be the greatest engineer ever, regardless of colour.
You know that's true. But do you believe it's true? You must
believe that success will definitely be your reward if you make the risk to reach out and take your opportunity, to go forth and shape your own destiny. It's not enough to simply
know that these details are true, you must practice your belief in them, and you consequently will soon find that your beliefs will begin to shape your reality.
Will you try something for me? When you go to bed, instead of lying awake worrying about things that might or might not happen, repeat to yourself a positive mantra. Here are some suggestions:
"I am in control of my own destiny."
"Opportunity is right in front of me. All I have to do is reach out and take it."
"Everyday, in everyway, I get better."
As you lie in bed, repeat one of those (or one of your own) ten times, in your head or out-loud as is most convenient. On each repetition, firmly but gently press a finger (and then the next, and so on) into your thigh.
Breathe in slowly as you begin each repetition, and out calmly as you say/think the words. As you're saying/thinking each repetition, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing an activity you've done or will do successfully. Don't worry if it takes time to articulate in your mind how you have/will be successful. There is no rush to get from one repetition to the next.
As you breathe deeply and repeat your mantra, you'll begin to feel yourself getting calm. The visualization of your being successful, being happy, will become clearer. Every now and then, a negative thought might temporarily distract you. Go on, indulge yourself. See the negative thought clearly in your head, as if it were on a 20" screen. Now it's on a 15" screen, and on a small picture-in-picture there is now the image of you being successful, happy, and accomplishing your goals. Now the negative thought is on a 12" screen, and in black and white. Visualize yourself laughing at the negative thought. Say, "ha!" outloud at how small that negative thought is now. Now it's on an 8" screen, and the picture is getting fuzzy. And smaller, and less clear. And smaller still. And now the negative thought is gone altogether.
"Whoosh!" Suddenly the picture-in-picture image of you being successful is on a 42" screen in vivid colour. Say the word, "Whoosh!" as you see the picture of you being happy expand in front of you. Say "Whoosh!" as you see again as you accomplish your goals.
All of this is a kind of hypnotism, but that's nothing new to you. You've been hypnotizing yourself already, just with negative thinking rather than positive thinking. There's no shame it - we've all been there at one point or another in our lives, and most likely will again sometime down the road. The trick is to recognize, and acknowledge, that that's what you're doing, and to know that the power to correct that problem is under your control, at your fingertips, as it were.
Know that you can do it, right now. Think of something, do something, right now that makes you happy. If you have a goal that's been floating around intangibly in the back of your mind, do something about it, right now. An easy and helpful thing you can do is get a piece of paper, and write down your idea on it.
What are you doing tomorrow? Shape your destiny - realize the connection between what you know, what you believe, and what you can make reality by writing down what you're going to do tomorrow. Tomorrow, go out and do the things on your list. It's that simple: shape your destiny, realize your destiny.
It's right that you should feel good about yourself. It's right that you should be happy. It's right that you should be successful. You know that. Now start believing it. Is anyone ever going to give you exactly what you want in life? No. Is it possible that you are in control, and have the power, to tailor your destiny to your own design? Most definitely: YES.