You still have to control the FET even if you can find one that works high voltage.
I would suggest a simple and effective solution using optical feedback. It involves using an additional small wattage(1~3W) 230V filament lamp and a LDR(light dependent resistor). Mount the LDR close to the lamp so that the lamp shines onto the LDR, but the setup should be light tight.
Set your dimmer POT so that the small filament lamp just start emitting light. Due to feedback action, the lamp(and the 300W external lights) will eventually goes full brightness.