Oh, I know exactly what it is that's causing me to get riled up so easily. It is primarily due to a lack of people to hang out with- both guys and girls. All the guys are out of town for the summer working and all the girls are back home for the summer and with no venues to meet new people of any kind I'm kinda stuck. There are no venues around here other than school (which is out for the summer- quality girls but hard to get to know) and one bar (more alcohol? plus not so quality girls) to meet the people I'm interested in. And most any social place (ie. like a bar) or anything really doesn't seem to go over so well if you don't have at least one friend to come with you in the first place. Yes, I've tried it. Yes, I've tried it several times . No, I won't try it again.

Lack of guys around isn't really a problem in itself, but no guys means no distractions or support.

THe fightin' spirit isn't what I have a problem with. It's the inevitable crash that occurs after a lot of effort with zero progress. Being disenchanted after the way some (or should I say most) of the way girls have behaved doesn't help either. You should NEVER forsake honesty for politeness. Part of the problem is I grew up "in the incorrect neighborhood" as well as the "wrong side of the city" and went to "the wrong schools" so my social circle has absolutely zero connections with the social circle of interest which would make things much easier. Actually, that's false. There are two distant connections, but they're both racist as far as guy-girl matters go, so no thanks.

THese new braces don't help either.

I expect the problem to self-correct when school starts again and everyone gets back, or the next time everyone gathers together for a party. Seems people complain that I don't drink at parties- probably because there are actual people to hang out with.

We'll see how orange juice suffices as a substitute for the next 3 weekends. I had some last week while watching a concert and I thought "Hey, this stuff is really satisfying. And it seems that I can drink a bunch of it and not get sick from all the liquid like I normally do." We'll also see if this riling up will make me feel like doing something about it. I got tired of all the futile effort the last time though.

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Yes, don't you hate it when people classify others according to external factors, like where you live, what car you drive, what work you do or who you know.

Us idiot humans.

That doesn't even make sense. Factors around you does not determine you, you determine you, and you determine the things around you, for your unique reasons.
Go figure, people are strange things.
People also tend to want to stand out/be unique by all conforming to the same thing. Have you noticed.
That's to laugh at.
How naive can we be. Real idiots I think.

Any case, good luck with that.
Oh and don't worry about the braces, a lot of people had them and survived.

 

I've been like that for the last two years since I finished college.

I only have one friend who I see about once a month, I don't mind being on my own but I do get quite bored. I have joined a couple of clubs but I haven't really found anyone who is single and have something in common with, either male of female.

I don't drink much as I don't go out much. I don't really have much motivation in general and spend most of my free time on forums like this one - they're pretty adicitve.

I've tried going traveling and doing other things which have improved my confidence but I always get hooked on the Internet when I get back home. I don't know whether this is good or bad. I supose it makes me feel happy to have helped people on forums like this one.

I agree with arrie here about prejustice but we all have it.

As far as the honesty vs politeness thing is concerned, it depends on the situation often you might think it's rude to be honest even though it's the best policy for both parties.

For example, you're staying with a group of people and someone cooks you something you don't like. You could do the polite thing and pretent you like it or be honest and say you don't like it. What I would do is eat the meal and then say I wasn't that keen on it. This is better for me because they know I didn't like it so won't cook me it again and it's better for them because they know I'm being truely honest when I say something positive about thier cooking.

However, if somone has a big nose or big ears, poking fun at them won't help you or them it'd be just being rude for the sake of it.

I admit I can be sometimes rude, I don't mean to be I can just often be a bit abrupt in the way I say things but this can be a good as well as a bad thing.

Lol, I remember when someone in the Ukraine asked me if I like lard, "Lard? You mean fat?" I said, they said "Yes, pork fat.", I said "That sounds totally disgusting!", they said "Well it's our national dish.", I thought to my self "Whoops I might have offended them.", I just smilled and luckily they didn't seem too offended.

Don't worry, it's a temporary thing, when they're gone you might actually receive complements about your nice teeth.

At least your problem will go away, I'll just have to keep tying to motivate myself to try new things or I'll end up living with my parents for the rest of my life and that would be sad.

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Hero999,

don't give up dude.
I've been a loner almost my whole life, I actually thought that's the way for me, then by freak I met my wife, I was already late in my twenties if I remember right, we stuck together, shaped each other a bit, then pulled it through.
Now I have two beautiful little children, my boy being born only late March this year.
And as all those other people said, only then do you understand the meaning of life, you'll see it carries water.
All the other things that happen along the way are actually just that, things that happen.
Even now, I have very few friends, but barely see them because we've become so spread out. It doesn't bother me too much though.
What is important is, along the way not too make too many stupid decisions that will f-up your life forward.
Otherwise ride the wave, and every now and then turn your board sideways.

 

A good diet does not reverse coronary artery disease .. it only reduces part of the risks. There is only one program that has been proven to actually reverse CAD and that is the Dr. Dean Ornish Program. It's a combination of diet, yoga, exercise, and peer support. It's a serious lifestyle change that many Americans cannot tolerate but the results are a measurable improvement in cardiovascular health.

I worked at a large hospital for 11 years, learning much from the medical staff but it wasn't until I suffered a mild heart attack 7 months ago, did I really learn the deep info. behind CAD. Luckily I only lost 5% of my cardiac output and I have no other risk factors other than high cholesterol from genetics, not my diet. Because of my current cardiac meds, I cannot consume alcohol so the benefits of red wine are substituted by drinking pure grape juice. The anti-oxidants are just as plenty in the juice.

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Remember the study could not conclude it was more of a general proposal of all the category's including procyanidin is of the most of the polyphenols from Red Wine is found in apples.


kv Cheers , Crunch.

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