Why is it so many folk on here are so hostile....?
There seems to be a lot of hostility from some of the membership or is it me being over sensitive? and I'm generalising here, not just posts or threads with my name on...
I'd rather not name names but there are a few who choose to have a very curt manner when it comes to replying to various posts....
Maybe its my British upbringing in being polite....
Discuss....
Maybe its time I took a leave of abscence again!
Last edited by Chippie; 29th November 2009 at 10:02 PM.
Eccentric millionaire financed by 'er indoors
culture and perceived attitudes plus personal sensitivity, knowledge, and experience or lack there of have everything to do with how we each view and understand what we read.
But yes its typically a bit tense around here. The wide range of personal tastes, views, knowledge, and cultural upbringing sort of just has that overall effect.
Whats offensive to one group is not even an issue with another. Add the personal views of each and every person to that and its even more complex.
"Issue a general safety warning. Then look the other way and allow stupidity the chance to eliminate itself." -- tcmtech
"Those who can, Will. Those who can't, will achieve positions of power over those who can and then promptly stop them." -- tcmtech
"Your impossibility may just be my day to day routine." -- tcmtech
I think your post was in reference to the thread I just started.
Sheer stupidity.
I've run across this in more than one form on the net where people associate a simple set of words with a perceived emotional response, and it is very culturally dependent. Remember, these are just words on a screen and not a verbal or visual conversations with a real person where body language and audio tone will give you clues to the intention.
If you perceive a slight in a comment ASK, you have to be very deliberate in a text only format.
Authors of books spends YEARS attempting to construct emotional responses using words and judgeing by the number of failed authors out there, not many of them really succeed =)
"Because I be what I be. I would tell you what you want to know if I
could, mum, but I be a cat, and no cat anywhere ever gave anyone a
straight answer, har har."
Originally Posted by Sceadwian
Possibly...:P
Hey I dont want to fall out with you or anyone else...
I like think I have something to contribute to the forum but not at the expense of hostile attacks on comments I've made...
Friends?
Eccentric millionaire financed by 'er indoors
lol Chippie, I think I've said it 3 times now, I was not being hostile, if you perceived that then you were mistaken. Being I'm the one that wrote the words I should know my own intent, we're not friends we're fellow members of a forum but I'm as I was before perfectly friendly towards you =)
"Because I be what I be. I would tell you what you want to know if I
could, mum, but I be a cat, and no cat anywhere ever gave anyone a
straight answer, har har."
K....Where's the shake hands smiley?we're not friends we're fellow members of a forum
Last edited by Chippie; 29th November 2009 at 10:44 PM.
Eccentric millionaire financed by 'er indoors
lol.
ummm
Hopefully that link stays active for a while =)
"Because I be what I be. I would tell you what you want to know if I
could, mum, but I be a cat, and no cat anywhere ever gave anyone a
straight answer, har har."
Hey, let go! Don't you see his hand has turned pale already?lol.
ummm
Hopefully that link stays active for a while =)
Last edited by Boncuk; 30th November 2009 at 04:13 AM.
Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance
You just be what you be that's all. I never could tell when my keyboard is mad maybe it's just the reader LOLlol.
ummm
Hopefully that link stays active for a while =)
Burt
I think you are being overly sensitive and emotional, but I live on the other side of the pond. Words hold no power of themselves, the reader is the one who empowers them. If you read something, that leads you to believe the author is being hostile, abusive, condescending, or anything else, you, the reader doesn't have share the authors poor manners or bad mood. Clearly the author has problems, why let that spoil your day, it's his problem.
On the other thread, he did state it clearly in the OP, you missed it, shouldn't have pressed the hostility thing. Sometimes people have other thing on their minds, and it bleeds over. I think most of us here in the US, are a little uptight these days. Not sure how much of the news, about how our new President is raping our economy, and poised to destroy Health Care for many, but got a hunch many of us are greatly concerned about how the new year will start. Many have already lost their jobs and businesses, and this Health Care Reform, will add quite a few more, as it doesn't really address the cost of health care (doctor's bill), just who is going to pay for it, and it encourages more people to run up huge bills. America is holding their breath, a very bad 'change' is months away. We are all a little edgy these days.
It is funny reading these type comments in the different forums and communities. Some time in the future you will look back and will see a different picture that you do now. Your fears of the unknown has gripped you guys and it is interesting watching how the different groups react.
Our President here in South Africa Jacob Zuma - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia was elected in April and leading up to his election some of us were reacting like you guys. 7 months down the line, I laugh a bit at how our fears freaked us out. Oh, and our President has been in court facing rape charges.
Re our bad change - things have improved a bit from how the last guy left it. Perhaps you guys are only noticing the mess on your side now?
So ... Relax.
There are lots of members who's posts I just skip over these days. They are rarely helpful, but always quick with a caustic quip about someone's questions or musings. They offer egos instead of solutions.
Lions and tigers and bears, OH MY!
Exactly.It is funny reading these type comments in the different forums and communities. Some time in the future you will look back and will see a different picture that you do now. Your fears of the unknown has gripped you guys and it is interesting watching how the different groups react.
You all remember when the world as we know it ended on January 1 2000 right?
Very true but then you could just think of them as the acid in the battery of life!They are rarely helpful, but always quick with a caustic quip about someone's questions or musings.
"Issue a general safety warning. Then look the other way and allow stupidity the chance to eliminate itself." -- tcmtech
"Those who can, Will. Those who can't, will achieve positions of power over those who can and then promptly stop them." -- tcmtech
"Your impossibility may just be my day to day routine." -- tcmtech
Our President has mostly been spending billions of dollars to help companies, that probably would have done fine without, and most likely would be managing their own business practices better, instead of continuing as they have been. I see a lot of spending, but not much on the bulk of the population. Lots of people losing their jobs, businesses closing their doors, empty houses all over the neighborhood, and more fighting foreclosure. People working, pay taxes, other wise they are getting money from the government (public assistance), more spending, less going back in.
Surprised that some of our Presidents haven't been accused of rape/sodomy, guess they paid the victims well. Bill Clinton was the closest, but it wasn't rape, he just lied to the highest court in the country about his 'indiscretions', which should have been dealt with more harshly.
Clinton did not lie to the highest court in the country. That's plain false and dishonest.
Lions and tigers and bears, OH MY!
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